This week’s International Association of Interviewers interview and interrogation training tip from the archives, provided by Wicklander-Zulawski, has Chris Norris, CFI, director of WZ Europe and International Training, looking at developing rapport.
What is rapport? Rapport is creating a relationship in a very short period of time.
Many times, when I conduct training courses, I ask attendees about what makes a good interviewer. A variety of topics, traits, and characteristics often arise, but one response consistently comes forward: the ability to build rapport.
How do you build rapport? One of the ways we build rapport while conducting interviewers is quite easy: by asking a simple question. Here’s how it works. The question is: Can you tell me something about yourself?
For me, the way I ask that question is that I tend to offer it up with reciprocity. I say, “Let me tell you about myself.” I share a little bit, then I say, “I’ll be telling you more about myself, but before I get into all that, why don’t you tell me a little bit about yourself?” That encourages them to open up.
The reason this works in terms of rapport-building is that when we ask them about themselves, and they’re willing to share (“Oh, I’m married, I’ve got a family, my kids are involved in these activities, this is what I do for work” etc.), now we can share a bond. Now I have a sense of who the individual is. I could share a common interest. By sharing a common interest, we tend to build rapport because I’m much more like you than you realize.
Some of you might think, “Chris, in the environment I work in, people aren’t going to answer that question. They’re going to look at me like I’m crazy.” What I’ll ask you is this: do you think they’d rather talk about themselves, or why they’re sitting in front of you right now?
The other thing to consider is, you may be the first member of management to ever sit down with this individual and say “Who are you? What makes you tick? Tell me about yourself.” The thing about ‘me telling you about me’ is ‘I end up liking you, because you let me talk about me.’ People like talking about themselves. Giving someone that opportunity to talk about themselves and discover a common interest with you helps you build that relationship in a very short period of time. It helps you build rapport.
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This post was originally published in 2018 and was updated January 4, 2018.